A mango - Breaking invisible boundaries

                                             
Yesterday, I went to a store to buy some vegetable. Seeing beautiful mangoes, on a spur I bought a few. A gentleman before me literally looked at every mango before selecting about 6 of them. After waiting for 5 min, I decided to quickly pick up the mangoes that 'felt' right. If these were not good then I would change them. So 4 came up quickly. Then there was one, which I realised I did not want, nevertheless 'felt' like picking up. So 5 mangoes came up with me to the cashier!

This is the story of that 5th mango!

After I came out of the store, I was debating within myself whether to go after my husband shopping in another nearby store or wait in the car. As I stood there unsure of what to do next, I noticed a girl of about 13 looking at me. She was part of a small family at what seemed their old paper mart / kabadi shop. ( For those who cant figure what it is - it is about 10ft x2 ft shop stacked with old newspapers bought from ppl like us and sold for a few rupees profit to recycling orgs). In her seemed to be an old, empty jewellery box from some jeweler, no doubt discarded by somebody better off. She was caressing the velvet where a necklace would have been. Her father and younger brother around busy with other 'junk'.

Seeing me and touching the velvet, she seemed to be looking at a fantasy .. She was seeing me right in front of her. Yet I seemed to be a fantasy just like necklace she would never have. I seemed to be a metaphor for the person she could never be. Short hair, jeans, confident walk, in a car....

I was a bit uncomfortable under her gaze. At that time, I was aware only of a young girl staring at me. A thought stuck me of giving her a mango from my stash. But then the pros and cons followed. A debate raged in me ...

She will be surprised... It will seem like charity...She might be offended....Am I trying to help her or what .Really, a mango? Whats that going to do for her?... Career guidance, coaching all that is helpful, but mango? What are you going to achieve?.....Well this is what I would be doing to a friend's daughter - Share a delicious mango..... She did look a bit like a friend's daughter.....She could have been one had she been born in in diff circumstance. .... But how do I go up there and do it. .. It seems wrong..I will seem like a weirdo...What will I tell Sampath.... Oh I wish Sampath would come back soon, so I dont have to deal with this....What is he doing there for so long! .....He ought to have come by now!....

Thought cycles in which our minds run - based on Patanjali

On a normal day this conversation would have gone on with no action happening. Today, before I could debate and decide within, I found myself stepping up to the girl, picking a mango  and offering it to her.( you guessed right the 5th mango!). No words flowed in the beginning. Only eye contact! All that was there in me was a wildly beating heart! She was startled. Obviously so. She looked around at her father for direction. While he was busy, she knew she could take the mango from me. She turned around and smiled. Took the mango.

I almost ran.( I ran in my mind, on the outside, I was carefully keeping up the pretense of a strong, confident woman). I went to the shop where Sampath was still there. This time thankful that I can be somewhere other than the car for sometime. Then after a couple of min, as we walked back, we passed her again. We exchanged smiles. As we drove off  , she waved at me with a cheerful smile and I waved back.
This time it was the wave of a friend. No charity here. It was acknowledgement of being lifted to hope, wonder and something different in operating in both of us now.

Suddenly I realised that an invisible barrier between two worlds were broken. You could look at this in different ways - 2 classes, 2 patterns within both of our minds.
For both of us, it was a shift from what was to what can be. I was no longer fantasy, I was real. Somehow, it seemed to bring back her confidence as if now she knew that she could be what she wanted to be.
For me too, I was no longer a prisoner of notions I held within, I could do, I could act on what I truly 'felt'.

I do not know whether they fought over who would get how much mango, or whether she should have accepted it or ......
But I know it changed her and it changed me. Boundaries built deep into us by unknown, unseen people was broken by a mango. Boundaries so deep , that they cannot be known by us, only their impacts on our decisions understood when we are out of them.

Perspective of Oneness in Queendom

There will be different perspectives governing the Queendom. That will be the basic premise from which every thinking will spring forth.

Every field today is ruled by a perspective. The thoughts and concepts produced by people carry the influence of that perspective or the fundamental idea which belong to that era. Akin to the seed from which the tree sprouts.

Queendom will have such fundamental perspective which would be completely different from the current one.

Oneness...

If we have a basic belief that we are all one at a deep level and we are able to experience it as such, our perspective about every thing will change. Being one at a deep level is not to negate the obvious differences between individuals, but to experience the source to be common to all.

In describing ourselves today, the number of labels we use indicate the narrowness of our identification. We identify ourselves with a minute slice of nature and then our field of perception gets limited by this identity. We become oblivious to realities outside the domains defined by our identity. This limited perception creates limited consciousness. In our current mainstream society, this perception is heavily influenced by marketing by media, companies, other humans, institutions, etc, resulting consciousness which is very materialistic and short sighted. This short sightedness creates distinctions and limitedness in our perceptions. We start to see things as for and against us. Consider the issue of fight between Tamil Nadu and Karnataka discussed in Chitra's article about Limitedness in thought on the Cauvery issue. 

This can change when individually our consciousness extends our perception to the Common Source of all Nature, the Source of which we are all different manifestations. That is the seed of Oneness as opposed to Limitedness. This consciousness spiritual in current meaning will become a fundamental assumption of the individual human psyche in Queendom.This Psycho-spiritual consciousness will be the wide spread consciousness of Queendom. The possibilities from this consciousness will be extremely unbelievable.

For example - Queendom can then easily integrate science and spirituality and create an universe which will not question the other but will only help the other to become reality.Instead of competing and fighting with one another, people in Queendom will collaborate and co create.

It is not a fantasy that we are talking about Queendom.  We are talking about a very fundamental perspective held by people in Queendom. This perspective is seeded in them out of their living experience. What of this perspective?

They will see the oneness in every one. Even though every one will be different, people in Queendom will also see the inherent psychic reality of oneness in every one. And they will relate with this oneness aspect. Such a relationship will give them a different experience which in turn will give them a different attitude. This attitude helps them to collaborate and co create.

The Web of consciousness surrounding Queendom will carry the belief that we are all one at a deep level and will be different at a manifested, and objective level. This subjective reality and the objective fact will be integrated in every one. This will help them see the oneness aspect in every one.

Holding this perspective helps them in many ways. Currently we are wasting huge amounts of psychic energy through our feelings like jealous, anger, envy depression,etc. This is because our basic belief is we are different. This belief creates a sense of insecurity and anxiety.We need to protect out interests from the other.

But once the basic belief is changed into "we are one" perspective, the people are not gripped and cringed by fear and insecurity. This will save them a lot of psychic energy which can be used for exploring new psychic avenues.

This subjective knowledge will alter the very view that we hold about the universe and people in the Queendom. Their way of life will be totally different, which we cannot imagine right now.

Though we can not imagine, let us attempt to be mindful and see the seeds of it that are being sown in the consciousness around us.

Queendom.....

So what is Queendom ?

The dictionary may suggest a land ruled by a Queen.
But shall we envisage a people where the feminine in the form of inclusion, care and affection is part of the mainstream pursuit? Further it is not just the mainstream but the moving factor for growth rather than the current pursuit for profit.

This is my idea of Queendom. A nation - of man, women and all other manifestations of nature living in harmony playing the role that they understand is theirs to play, nothing more nothing less.
- There is no place for greed or profit as the perspective is always of  'us' and not of 'me'. That is inclusion.
- Growth is directed towards providing for, creating new methods for wholesomeness and happiness not pleasure. That is care and affection.
- Education and its pursuit is for wisdom not knowledge. That is wisdom.

Though it seems like an imaginary land, the emergence of this Queendom in our midst is underway. Just look around, you will see the old world crumbling away.
We dont have territorial wars any more, only with terrorists. And these terrorists are very often fanatics excluded from the mainstream. But then ways of including warring sides is not there.
Even territorial disputes are fought with publicity, arm twisting, politics rather than brute force , ex Tibet.
But they are being fought.
Economies and economics of old are crumbling, old bastions of power are destabilizing. New economies and new economics are  about to emerge. But they have not yet emerged.
Old norms of relationships are shaken and booted out. Norms of fidelity, responsibility to parents, marriage are challenged, norms of gender and sexual orientations are challenged. But newer norms are not yet established.
Old Religions and rituals are preaching loudly in a last failing bid to hold the emerging generation. And then there is the new age spiritualists asking them to come to spirituality rather than religion. But then again even that is private, not mainstream.

It seems that many ways of working of the previous time seems to be coming to an end, newer ones are on the threshold of emerging. The battle for Queendom is at these thresholds. It comes on the wings of hope, faith, trust, love for humanity. It is often seemingly led by women. Women who are more naturally tuned to it but also by the great numbers of men whose presence is more invisible, but action is firm and supportive of these women.

These are the knights of Queendom and at the forefront of bringing a new consciousness for all of us.